Rasky definitely nails it though. It's all in the end user. The more skill and experience you have the better your results will be.
I like a lot of the meguiars D Line stuff and certain Chemical Guys products. It's more about trying things and deciding what you like and what works for you. I've had numerous products that sounded great and had good reviews and ended up being terrible. CG products included.
I will say the nice thing with CG stuff, there is a lot of room for error without having to undo what you did wrong.
CG also have a lot of redundant products available on their website. It's difficult to sort through it all and know what you need and what you don't. There is so much overlap between stuff as well.
Wheel cleaner and pre-wash grime dissolver: Meguiars D103 All Purpose Cleaner. (APC) It's $15/gallon and you have to dilute it. 4:1 or 10:1 work great. This stuff at 4:1 with a couple brushes and you won't need another wheel cleaner. It's way cheaper than anything else for being so versatile and effective. 10:1 for interior cleaning.
As far as good soap, I like to have at least 2. One really strong one for stripping dirt, grime, and old wax. And a maintenance soap that won't remove the wax I just put on.
I like the CG citrus soap for the strong one and their gloss works soap for maintenance.
Optimum no rinse works great for maintenance washes as well. It's super easy to use. Its the only thing I use to wash now. If you live in an apt and don't have hose access, it's your best friend. You can also use it as clay lube.
Clay bars: The "best" one I've used is the Blackfire polyclay. Try a couple out and see what you like best. Clay lube is personal preference also. I've been using dodo juice born slippy. You have dilute properly.
I have found that using Carpro Iron X is great for removing contaminates and makes claying a lot faster. Just do one panel at a time and be sure to rinse off the Iron X and don't let it dry on there!
Polish? Meguiars 205. It's plenty for Honda paint. Start there and get yourself a good buffer and a variety of pads. Lake country orange and white pads should be enough with the 205 for some very good correction. Pick up some black or blue pads if you want to use your buffer to apply wax/sealants.
Hope that helps a bit. Try stuff out and see what you like. Gallons are always cheaper but buy the small sizes first to see if you like it.
2 websites to check out for detailing supplies:
www.detailedimage.com
www.autogeek.net