Mother Of All Whore Threads Non-VIP Edition v.1

Janz3n said:
Shes actually ok about it( as far as i can tell in messages. )

i just feel bad now. i offered to have a family trip to mexico before she told me she put the deposit down.
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Ohh, then you're probably fine!

It's a good sign of emotional health that you were introspective about it

So my assessment of not an azswole stands :thumb:
 
Assuming the destination for their wedding is of their choice and not because of some economic forces. If you really don't want to go because it is cheaper to visit Mexico for twice the time, I'd recommend either offering to cover her expense or split it with her as a peace offering.

All in all, while a 2wk vacation to Mexico could be cheaper, it isn't about the destination as much as it is about the event. You're there to support your family for an important event. So, I think there is some sense of being an azzhole about not going simply because you could go to Mexico for less. The problem is, the wedding isn't in Mexico, it's in the DR so the trip to Mexico would be all about you and the trip to the DR is about them.

Anyhow, just my thoughts.
 
AlmosN8kd said:
Assuming the destination for their wedding is of their choice and not because of some economic forces. If you really don't want to go because it is cheaper to visit Mexico for twice the time, I'd recommend either offering to cover her expense or split it with her as a peace offering.

All in all, while a 2wk vacation to Mexico could be cheaper, it isn't about the destination as much as it is about the event. You're there to support your family for an important event. So, I think there is some sense of being an azzhole about not going simply because you could go to Mexico for less. The problem is, the wedding isn't in Mexico, it's in the DR so the trip to Mexico would be all about you and the trip to the DR is about them.

Anyhow, just my thoughts.
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they have made it clear that they dont expect everyone to come due to the cost and other factors. if we were to go its mostly to see my family and not so much for the wedding. there was no pressure to go at all.

edit: so youre calling me an *******? :D

My mortgage broker just emailed us this morning asking for documents and copies of things shes already has. seems to be the trend with her. super frustrating and hard not making my emails back to her sound angry or condescending.
 
Janz3n said:
edit: so youre calling me an *******? :D
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I don't think it is you being a complete azzhole; but, from my neutral position, I can see the frustration on both sides of the argument. That's why I recommended maybe splitting or covering her deposit as a peace offering because the change was of your request (you opted out when they had already taken your attendance into account - I know it was before the deadline but it still potentially cost them $250/person deposit). And, I get that it is considerably less expensive to visit Mexico so it makes sense why you'd want to do that instead; but, again, the event in the DR is about them where the trip to Mexico is about you, so there is a fundamental difference in the whole purpose for the trip that makes me lean towards the mild-azzhole (polite Canadian azzhole . . . ? :rotfl:) side of this question.
 
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