I cannot believe hearing about all the push back from all of the dealerships out there. To me if you have a concern about how your car is working the dealership should investigate it and do whatever they can to fix it. You also have the right to have the most up to date software on your car especially if Honda has created an update to rectify a known issue.
I would have a huge concern with any dealership who refuses to check into your request to have the software checked ESPECIALLY when everyone on this forum knows about the update from Honda. I would be calling Honda HO to escalate for sure.
I've already called Honda Canada to inquire about when the software is being released up here.
Don't just give up.
The biggest issue is that Honda has not notified anyone that they have released this, usually a software update is release with a service bulletin which states the problem and what the solution to the problem is. This lets your dealerships, techs and customers know there is a problem and that they have a solution, it also allows the dealerships the authorization to book out warranty time on these affected vehicles. Since nothing of this sort has been released the dealerships neither know of an update nor do they know how to go about being able to have the work done for free for the customer under the warranty and to pay the tech his time to do the work. Also since nothing has been sen out from honda, anythig the dealership does would be the dealerships responsibility if another problem were see to arise from it, because Hondas question would be "well we never put out a bulletin or official update so why the heck were you updating these cars without our authorization?"If Honda would release a tsb on this update no one would have a problem getting the update installed.